The not so quest for perfection

Posted by Unknown | | Posted On Wednesday, June 3, 2009 at 11:25 AM

So this has probably been going on for centuries and centuries, but since I am in this stage of mommy hood, I feel that most mommies I know, feel as inadequate as I am in this job called mothering or household wife. The problem is that there is really no job pre-requisites for being a parent and also there is really no job description that you can go by to really say well you know I am stinking good at this or I really stink at this......because some days we just feel both ways about it. I sometimes think that most of us mommies compare ourselves WAY to much to so and so, who "seems" like they have it all together. Right? But really who has it all together? And whose kid does not cry or throw a royal fit when they do not get their way or get hurt or whatever? I think it is funny at times because I too have felt smug when my children are behaving in front of friends and family, but I know how they really can be at times, do not let me fool you. Have you ever felt smug yourself, oh I know you have I have seen it on your face (not really)? SHAME ON YOU, because you know how they really can be sometimes huh? So do not think yourself better or less than ........... because you are a mommy who by God's grace has given you this quiver of one or quiver full. It is life, and life throws you some crazy kids every once and awhile and life throws you some not so fun things to do around the house at times as well. So, anyhow this is for anyone whoever had some crazy assumption that I, Gretchen Phelps, was perfect...........because I am not and if you thought that then let me just tell you that thought is a myth and a lie! So please do not ever think that I have it all together, because well..........most days I fly by the seat of my pants.........and come up with things to do at random. However, granted sometimes I do plan ahead. So in this quest of parenting and being a "perfect mom and wife" let's just remember we will never be perfect. I think instead we should be on the not so quest for perfection, just doing my best in life quest. So let's just get rid of that word "perfect" all together and be thankful that God has just given us children to parent and a husband to love. So I am over anyone comparing their children, marriage, or home to mine or me to someone else, because I am different and have different opinions as well on how to do all this stuff. And just let me put this out there: if your child is at my home and you are visiting and they are not so pleasant, do not worry.........I understand and I have been there. This is the verse that I have always loved even before I had kids and before I was a stay at home mommy, Colossians 3:23, "Whatever you do, do with all your heart as working for the Lord and not for men." So please join me on this not so quest for perfection! P.S. Oh, by the way some good books I have read lately and would highly recommend are The Lies Women Believe and the Truth That Sets Them Free and the Birth Order book. Anyhow, really good reads and great times of reflection.


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